If you really love me don’t pick me up”. The conference in Cersosimo against gender violence, organized by the “Progetto Basilicata” association, in collaboration with Domenico Dragonetti, opened with the words of Angela Ferrara. Touching, intense moments, interspersed with music and songs by the Musicanto Polyphonic Choir of Val D’Agri, directed by Rosa Torraca and Maria Sarli. About forty artists embellished the event with their pictorial works, all suggestive. They moderated, Mimma Grillo and Concetta Iannibelli. The mayor of the ancient community of Cersosimo, Domenica Paglia, thanked the Association and the many present who had come from the municipalities of the Region and from nearby Calabria. Heartfelt institutional greetings, considering the theme and the place, but also for the rich cultural and human heritage left by Angela Ferrara, a woman of great example, humanity, passion, of that love contagious and endless for children and seniors.

These are the first words of the mayor. I remember her, she continues, under the pine tree, surrounded by many little ones with her beloved guitar and her magnificent wide, bright smile. She is still one of us, says the mayor, and we remember her daily through deeds, deeds, we remember her with a school recently opened to better prepare our children, but also through projects that speak of the strength and resilience of our women.

A woman full of dreams who wanted to fly high. Mimma Grillo and Concetta Iannibelli underlined the importance of the event: an educational and cultural meeting in memory of Angela Ferrara, but also an evening that aims to be a celebration of human rights, of the family, of small towns, of love. An evening in favor of the family and all those vulnerable people who continually send messages of discomfort and help within the walls of their own homes. Violence against women, it is stressed, is among the most serious human rights violations, an unacceptable form of gender-based discrimination that states must combat firmly and severely. No penal, procedural, economic measure against domestic violence is effective if not supported by an educational and training commitment. Need a new cultural approach, where prevention must have a priority role, as well as information, especially in internal areas, to better make known all those rights for the protection of vulnerable people. Information and collaboration among the various public and private actors, they argue, could be one of keystones.

Experts, women and men from the vast world of associations, teachers, scholars have touched on the many topics of a complex, yet difficult, social and behavioral galaxy, Angelo Chiorazzo, founder of Auxilium, did so who wanted to remember his friend Angela, the gift of one of his books with dedication, jealously guarded on the desk. This is the feast of beauty, he wanted to clarify. A girl who loved and saw things positively, beauty everywhere. Violence against women requires constant, daily, continuous commitment from us. We still have to work hard, even if there are positive signs, women who are increasingly protagonists, like our Prime Minister, and others, are extraordinary signs. In Auxilium, he is keen to say, seventy-two percent of collaborators are women and many of them are area managers. Then he does not neglect a heartfelt topic, that of the woman capable of being a mother and a worker.

A possible condition to foster, to encourage. With us, having a child, she proudly points out, is not a problem but a fortune. While indignation should be seen as a value ahead to injustices. Floriana Orofino, councilor for social policies of the municipality of Episcopia, underlines the theme of prevention, important for any community, as for municipal and territorial social policies. Just so, he says, we can help fragile people, people in difficulty, people who need to be supported through an effective interaction between the actors of the prevention and protection process, too through continuous monitoring. The synergistic and timely intervention of the social network, but also the cultural action and policies aimed at improving the common welfare and relationships become fundamental for the commissioner, a necessary and above all capable network to involve the school, the social reality, the families. Gianfranco Blasi, journalist, writer and poet, introduces the theme of death and the role of the journalist in telling facts and stories. If I were to write an article, he says, I would start by asking myself a question: what is death? Question, according to the writer, which helps to understand the reader, a reference to the naked truth, death and its symbols allows us to really understand, makes us reflect, lowers the tone, extinguishes the controversy, gets rid of the gossip, restoring the truth and the value of a person.

For Blasi it is an extraordinary, almost mystical experience. But that’s probably not enough, so here’s what we must also try to give an answer to the many marginalities of our land, such as ours, which has always been fruitful, rich of vineyards, grapes, oil, wheat bread, lands of shame and crosses, which assume a strong, visible role of opportunity. Death, continues Blasi, offers various opportunities and interpretations, while the truth must always accompany a reporter’s denunciation. When there will no longer be an article of this type, on death, we will probably have won a battle, even if in a certain sense the battle has been won here, and it was won according to Blasi, through a secular resurrection, which produces the colors and the rumors of an authentic denunciation. Armando Dereviziis, criminal lawyer, speaks of the “Red Code”, a law introduced to protect victims of violence and ill-treatment within a family context. A reduction in the procedural process for the related urgent measures, but also new types of crime, penalties and the conditional suspension of the sentence on condition of accepting a course of treatment and recovery.

The young lawyer, sensitive to the subject, does not dwell only on the laws, but hopes for effective and short-term intervention by the institutions, suggesting additional tools, such as a well-defined network starting from first aid, for conscious protection and effectiveness of the woman, avoiding having her return to the places and contexts where the violence occurred.

Cinzia D’Agostino, primary school teacher, talks about children, about how they always look at us and observe us, even when we don’t realize it. We need to set an example, she points out, we need to pay attention to language and above all to prevent risks. Just as they watch us, she points out, we have an opportunity to teach right behavior, and to be good educators, he suggests, one must be educated, one must set an example, not only through actions, but also with the use of words and adjectives. Especially the schools according to the teacher, they must know how to face and prevent gender-based violence which could affect the future of young people. Changes are needed, she concludes, even among education professionals, without a doubt, a more adequate and aware educational proposal is needed.

The anthropologist Giuseppe Melillo takes up the theme of fairy tales, which have always been, he recalls, an element of unconscious education for generations, transmissions of values, of knowledge, of unconscious teachings. Furthermore, for the professor, violence does not belong to a social class situation, but male domination over women, he explains, is the oldest and most enduring form of oppression, perhaps the primary, original one, from which everything then derives.

Violence against women is not violence by one person against another, she argues, but it is only the final effect of a product of systemic, cultural violence, understood as the set of human processes of various kinds, material and immaterial, how fairy tales, services, the economy, in short, various forms of processes and behaviors can be. blankViolence, therefore, the fruit of a particular society and not of the single. After all, he goes on to explain, we are the product of what surrounds us, we are faced with complex and transversal structural and superstructural problems within our societies, societies that persist in not fighting the processes, ideas, behaviors, but the individual, the man. We need a change of strategy, he reiterates, but also more awareness in self-determination, a healthy form of rebellion, capable of redesigning a community, a form, for the scholar, of cultural revolution of our common home. Immediately afterwards, a recollection of Angela through the words of a friend, Rosamaria Viola, while Antonio la Vecchia, president of the Basilicata Project, recalled the purpose of the association and the ongoing commitment to raise awareness of public opinion on important issues, such as gender-based violence. Professor Filomena Valicenti read some poems by the young poet, such as “She loves me or she loves me not”, in a certain sense the story of a life, the unveiling of dreams, the sharing of desires. The story and strength of a woman, like those of many other women through a flower, the daisy, which is so reminiscent of the warmth and sunlight on spring days.

Vincent Diego

Chronicle – 11/20/2022 – In Cersosimo to talk about gender-based violence. In Angela’s name